Rebecca Kiessling
Conceived in rape / Pro-life speaker
Product of Rape, International Pro-Life Speaker, Attorney
We've all heard someone say:
"I'm pro-life, well, except in cases of rape . . ."
or
"I'm pro-choice, especially in cases of rape !"

Have you ever considered how really insulting it is to say to someone, "I think your mother should have been able to abort
you."?  It's like saying, "If I had my way, you'd be dead right now."  And that is the reality with which I live every time someone
says they are pro-choice or pro-life "except in cases of rape" because I absolutely would have been aborted if it had been legal
in Michigan when I was an unborn child, and I can tell you that it hurts.  But I know that most people don't put a face to this
issue -- abortion is just a concept -- with a quick cliche, they sweep it under the rug and forget about it.  I do hope that, as a
child conceived in rape, I can help to put a face and a voice to this issue.   
-- Rebecca

POINTS OF INTEREST INFO FOR PROMOTING EVENTS WITH REBECCA:
(for her story, please read it below, or go to Rebecca Kiessling's writings page for her detailed story, her adoption poetry and
letter from her birthmother.)

*Pro-Life Speaker and Adoption Speaker since 1995 -- Right to Life and crisis pregnancy center fundraisers, rallies, churches,
high schools, universities, women's conferences, attorney conferences, adoption events, etc.

*Author of the Heritage House '76 pamphlet "Conceived in Rape: A Story of Hope" (Rebecca Kiessling's
personal story of having been conceived in rape and nearly aborted at two back-alley abortionists.)

*Honored by Feminists for Life as one of their internationally-named "Remarkable Pro-Life Women" and their
"poster child" for the rape-exception poster "Did I Deserve the Death Penalty?"  Get copies to promote your
event with Rebecca Kiessling by going to www.FeministsforLife.org

*Appeared on Good Morning America, CNN's Talk Back Live, CBS News, Canada's 100 Huntley Street, and EWTN's Life on the
Rock as a pro-life attorney and as a child conceived in rape

*Story featured in Glamour Magazine -- My Father is a Rapist, Marie Claire Magazine -- I Was Born of My Mother's Rape, and
with her birthmother on the syndicated program Extra -- Rebecca's Story

*Wrote a 43-page essay, "The Right of the Unborn Child Not to be Unjustly Killed -- a philosophy of rights approach" (See
Philosophical Abortion Essay page)  

*Adopted two children (with same birth mother) in open adoptions, was adopting two others (Cassie, who was born with special
needs who died at 33 days old, and a foster child who was ultimately adopted by another family in a better placement for her
needs), and gave birth to three biological children (second-generation abortion survivors)

*Family law attorney with four pro bono cases of international attention all involving the protection of preborn human life,
including the "frozen embryo" case in Michigan.  Two of those cases involved rape and abortion.  Also, represented a woman
sued for not aborting.  (practiced law as "Rebecca Wasser" before she married)

*Served as vice-chair of a crisis pregnancy center for two years and on the advisory board of Michigan Nurses for Life

*Currently serves on the Advisory Board of Crossroads Pregnancy Center

*Conducts workshops, "An Abortion-Minded Client's Life-Giving Legal Options" based on Michigan law.  See Rebecca
Kiessling's writings for the outline

*Testified before the Ohio Legislature on the Prefer Childbirth Over Abortion legislation which would, in part, remove the rape
exception from the ban on Medicaid funding of abortions in Ohio

* Married for 9-1/2 years, home school mother of 5 -- the oldest is 7

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Rebecca Kiessling's story (short form):

I was adopted nearly from birth.  At 18, I learned that I was conceived out of a brutal rape at knife-point by a serial rapist.  Like most people, I'd never considered
that abortion applied to my life, but once I received this information, all of a sudden I realized that, not only does it apply to my life, but it has to do with my very
existence.  It was as if I could hear the echoes of all those people who, with the most sympathetic of tones, would say, “Well, except in cases of rape. . .  ," or who
would rather fervently exclaim in disgust: “Especially is cases of rape!!!”  All these people are out there who don’t even know me, but are standing in judgment of
my life, so quick to dismiss it just because of how I was conceived.  I felt like I was now going to have to justify my own existence, that I would have to prove myself
to the world that I shouldn’t have been aborted and that I was worthy of living.  I also remember feeling like garbage because of people who would say that my life
was like garbage -- that I was disposable.

Please understand that whenever you identify yourself as being “pro-choice,” or whenever you make that exception for rape, what that really translates into is you
being able to stand before me, look me in the eye, and say to me, "I think your mother should have been able to abort you.”  That’s a pretty powerful statement.  I
would never say anything like that to someone.  I would never to someone, “If I had my way, you’d be dead right now.”  But that is the reality with which I live.  I
challenge anyone to describe for me how it's not.  It’s not like people say, “Oh well, I’m pro-choice except for that little window of opportunity in 1968/69, so that
you, Rebecca, could have been born.”  No -- this is the ruthless reality of that position, and I can tell you that it hurts and it’s mean.  But I know that most people
don’t put a face to this issue.  For them, it’s just a concept – a quick cliché, and they sweep it under the rug and forget about it.  I do hope that, as a child of rape,
I can help to put a face and a voice to this issue.

I've often experienced those who would confront me and try to dismiss me with quick quips like, “Oh well, you were lucky!”  Be
sure that my survival has nothing to do with luck.  The fact that I’m alive today has to do with choices that were made by our
society at large, people who fought to ensure abortion was illegal in Michigan at the time – even in cases of rape, people who
argued to protect my life, and people who voted pro-life.  I wasn’t lucky.  I was protected.  And would you really rationalize that
our brothers and sisters who are being aborted every day are just somehow "unlucky"?!!

Although my birthmother was thrilled to meet me, she did tell me that she actually went to two back-alley abortionists and I was
almost aborted.  After the rape, the police referred her to a counselor who basically told her that abortion was the thing to do.  
She said there were no crisis pregnancy centers back then, but my birthmother assured me that if there had been, she would
have gone if at least for a little more guidance.  The rape counselor is the one who set her up with the back-alley abortionists.  
For the first, she said it was the typical back-alley conditions that you hear about as to why "she should have been able to
safely and legally abort" me -- blood and dirt all over the table and floor.  Those back-alley conditions and the fact that it was
illegal caused her to back out, as with most women.  

Then she got hooked up with a more expensive abortionist.  This time she was to meet someone at night by the Detroit
Institute of Arts.  Someone would approach her, say her name, blindfold her, put her in the backseat of a car, take her and
then abort me . . . , then blindfold her again and drop her back off.  And do you know what I think is so pathetic?  It’s that I
know there are an awful lot of people out there who would hear me describe those conditions and their response would just
be a pitiful shake of the head in disgust:  “It’s just so awful that your birthmother should have had to have gone through that in order to have been able to abort
you!”  Like that’s compassionate?!!  I fully realize that they think they are being compassionate, but that’s pretty cold-hearted from where I stand, don’t you think?  
That is my life that they are so callously talking about and there is nothing compassionate about that position.  My birthmother is okay – her life went on and in
fact, she's doing great, but I would have been killed, my life would have been ended.  I may not look the same as I did when I was four years old or four days old
yet unborn in my mother’s womb, but that was still undeniably me and I would have been killed through a brutal abortion.

According to the research of Dr. David Reardon, director of the Elliot Institute, co-editor of the book Victims and Victors:  Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies,
Abortions and Children Resulting From Sexual Assault, and author of the article "Rape, Incest and Abortion:  Searching Beyond the Myths," most women who
become pregnant out of sexual assault do not want an abortion and are in fact worse-off after an abortion.  http://www.afterabortion.org.  So most people's
position on abortion in cases of rape is based upon faulty premises:  1) the rape victim would want an abortion, 2) she'd be better off with an abortion and 3) that
child's life just isn't worth having to put her through the pregnancy.  I hope that my story, and the other stories posted on this site, will be able to help dispel that
last myth.

I wish I could say that my birthmother was with the majority of victims and that she didn't want to abort me, but she had been convinced otherwise.  However, the
nasty disposition and foul mouth of this second back-alley abortionist, along with a fear for her own safety, caused her to back out.  When she told him by phone
that she wasn't interested in this risky arrangement, this abortion doctor insulted her and called her names.  To her surprise, he called again the next day to try to
talk her into aborting me once again, and again she declined and was hurled insults.  So that was it -- after that she just couldn’t go through with it.  My
birthmother was then heading into her second trimester – far more dangerous, far more expensive to have me aborted.  

I’m so thankful my life was spared, but a lot of well-meaning Christians would say things to me like, “Well you see, God really meant for you to be here!”  Or others
may say, "You were meant to be here."  But I know that God intends for every unborn child to be given the same opportunity to be born, and I can’t sit contentedly
saying, “Well, at least my life was spared.”  Or, “I deserved it.  Look what I’ve done with my life.”  And millions of others didn’t?  I can’t do that.  Can you?  Can you
just sit there and say, “At least I was wanted . . .  at least I’m alive . . . ,”  or just, “Whatever!”?  Is that really the kind of person who you want to be?  Cold-
hearted?  A facade of compassion on the exterior, but stone-cold and vacated from within?  Do you claim to care about women but couldn't care less about me
because I stand as a reminder of something you'd rather not face and that you'd hate for others to consider either?  Do I not fit your agenda?

In law school, I’d also have classmates say things to me like, “Oh well!  If you’d been aborted, you wouldn’t be here today, and you wouldn’t know the difference
anyway, so what does it matter?”  Believe it or not, some of the top pro-abortion philosophers use that same kind of argument:  “The fetus never knows what hits
him, so there’s no such fetus to miss his life.”  So I guess as long as you stab someone in the back while he’s sleeping, then it’s okay, because he doesn’t know
what hits him?!  I’d explain to my classmates how their same logic would justify “me killing you today, because you wouldn’t be here tomorrow, and you wouldn’t
know the difference anyway, so what does it matter?"  And they’d just stand their with their jaws dropped.  It’s amazing what a little logic can do, when you really
think this thing through – like we were supposed to be doing in law school – and consider what we’re really talking about:  there are lives who are not here today
because they were aborted.  It’s like the old saying:  “If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make a noise?”  Well, yeah!  And if a baby
is aborted, and no one else is around to know about it, does it matter?  The answer is, “YES!  Their lives matter.  My life matters.  Your life matters and don’t let
anyone tell you otherwise!

The world is a different place because it was illegal for my birthmother to abort me back then.  Your life is different because she could not legally abort me
because you are sitting here reading my words today!  But you don’t have to have an impact on audiences for your life to matter.  There is something we are all
missing here today because of the generations now who have been aborted and it matters.

One of the greatest things I’ve learned is that the rapist is NOT my creator, as some people would have me believe.  My value and identity are not established as
a “product of rape,” but a child of God. Psalm 68:5,6 declares:  “A father to the fatherless . . . is God in his holy dwelling.  God sets the lonely in families.”  And
Psalm 27:10 tells us “Though my father and mother forsake me,  the Lord will receive me.”  I know that there is no stigma in being adopted.  We are told in the
New Testament that it is in the spirit of adoption that we are called to be God’s children through Christ our Lord.  So He must have thought pretty highly of
adoption to use that as a picture of His love for us!

Most importantly, I’ve learned, I’ll be able to teach my children, and I teach others that your value is not based on the circumstances of your conception, your
parents, your siblings, your mate, your house, your clothes, your looks, your IQ, your grades, your scores, your money, your occupation, your successes or
failures, or your abilities or disabilities – these are the lies that are perpetuated in our society.  In fact, most motivational speakers tell their audiences that if they
could just make something of themselves and meet this certain societal standard, then they too could “be somebody.”  But the fact is that no one could ever meet
all of these ridiculous standards, and many people will fall incredibly short and so, does that mean that they’re not “somebody” or that they’re “nobody?”  The
truth is that you don't have to prove your worth to anyone, and if you really want to know what your value is, all you have to do is look to the Cross – because that’
s the price that was paid for you life!  That’s the infinite value that God placed on your life!  He thinks you are pretty valuable, and so do I.  Won't you join me in
affirming others' value as well, in word and in action?

For those of you who would say, "Well, I don't believe in God and I don't believe in the Bible, so I'm pro-choice," please read my essay, "The Right of the Unborn
Child Not to be Unjustly Killed -- a philosophy of rights approach."  I assure you, it will be worth your time.

For Life,
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